Do you ever question why?
Do you ever challenge an outcome, be-it a conversation, a business issue or even a coach’s decision to cut you from the volleyball team? Do you ever step out of the crowd, put yourself on the line in front of others and respectfully ask that that coach be held accountable for himself and his decision and give you a reasonable explanation as to why you were cut?
Have you ever been totally dissatisfied with the service at a restaurant or with a product that you purchased, but felt it best that you just remain silent, absorb the financial hit and not challenge the establishment on its poor quality?
Do you ever sit back and question why it is that so many people who pride themselves as authorities on the Bible and who seem to be constantly preaching to you about all that you should be, are they themselves some of the nastiest, degrading, most egotistical people on the planet?
Don’t you just love starring someone in the eye who is giving you diet, health or fitness advice, when he himself is 150 lbs overweight?
How about that favourite family member of yours who takes pride in giving you sound financial advice, but he himself has spent the bulk of his life in poverty or on the verge of bankruptcy?
Do you ever question why? Do you ever hold people accountable for their actions toward you?
I believe the answer to this question is largely dependent upon how you were raised as a child.
I was raised in a fiercely authoritative environment and was taught at an early age that I had no right to question anyone! So for a long time, I didn’t!
But as the years passed and the lunacy on this planet continued, I just couldn’t stop myself from analyzing the craziness that was going on around me on a daily basis. Why don’t we hold people accountable for their actions? Why are we brainwashed into believing that just because someone is older than you or has perhaps been doing something longer than you that they know everything there is to know about it and should never be questioned or challenged?
Human insecurity causes people to ban together. Each time a new victim succumbs to this massive sorority and whether it makes sense or not, they eagerly adopt the opinion held within it.
Becoming part of this sizable club offers great personal benefits, because with its membership card comes the emotional certainty that a person is doing things right and will automatically be granted acceptance within this community. This powerful mass of opinion is what I will redefine as “The Status Quo.”
Though its opinion often makes no rational sense at all, if this gigantic group attitude says that something is okay…. then heck…it must be okay! And indeed it is okay, because this enormous collective opinion confirmed that it was so!
Studying the history, attitude, control and pressure of the group that I am calling the Status Quo (for lack of a better name), has left me with little doubt that there is definitely power in numbers! It is very often destructive power… but none-the-less it is power!
The few courageous souls who refuse membership in the Status Quo take on a lifelong battle that is more than a little difficult. Having the guts to stand alone on an issue based on confident personal opinion is a tough ride that few have the resolve to maintain.
Do you ever ask why?
Do you have the guts to stand alone and fight for what you believe to be morally right or do you just find it easier to succumb to group opinion and accept it as so?
Why are the mental habits of the status quo so unreasonable, so irrational, so unhealthy, yet these behaviours govern the way this planet operates? I’m not really convinced that the individuals submitting to the status quo even believe in the mentality of this enormous congregation of people, but they take comfort in that there is strength in numbers. They simply do not have the courage to stand alone.
Now I don’t really have a problem with people who need the support of other people. But when the very large group opinion becomes as humanly destructive as it has, then I stand alone in the middle of the circle and shout “WHY?”
“Why can’t you people see what is really happening here?”
The status quo has become what I view as a colossal tsunami of disease infested, emotionally unfulfilled, financially defeated lost souls! It is an assembly of desperate people who can’t see the forest for the trees.
Many of these people are so emotionally distraught that they suck the life out of anyone who steps apart from the crowd and who has the courage to have a few of their own ideas on what may be right!
Clearly the quo is only a front for false acceptance because if given the chance the insecure people within it will smother you with their neediness! They are desperate for true fulfillment, exhilaration and wellness, yet they can’t seem to escape their weak submission to group acceptance. They are terrified to leave the base camp and strike out across the desert to find a better more liberating, independent way of life.
Some people in this group are so desperate for attention that they talk “at” you instead of “to” you, yacking on endlessly about their problems and incessant lack. Their faces turn red from lack of oxygen, not wanting to pause long enough to take a breath, for if they do, they risk you escaping from their relentless tale of self pity!
Do you ever ask why?
Do you ever stand apart from the crowd?
Do you have the guts to make big time life decisions based on your actual needs, knowledge and abilities versus what the quo says you must to do be accepted?
Do you have the guts?
The status quo dictates everything! It dictates what vehicle you should drive, what house you should live in, what job you should have, how much money you should earn and how many children you should birth. It enforces what style of cell phone is cool, what television shows you should watch, which movies to go see and which illness is currently most fashionable.
When I was five years old, the status quo said that all children should have their tonsils removed. So whether it made sense or not, whether I was constantly sick or not, mine were yanked out!
The quo said that good children go to church school on Sunday. It said that kids had to wear fancy, uncomfortable clothing and if they were not silent in church for hours on end while they sat on horribly uncomfortable pews, then they would be punished. It said that children must have impeccable manners and never challenge or disrespect their elders. It said that kids were to be subservient to adults. It confirmed that children should not question older people even if these people were incessantly disrespectful and rude to them. It said that kids had no rights over adults. They just had to take whatever brutality adults dished out!
It said that little girls were to grow up, mirror their body image after whatever the media said was feminely attractive, catch a man, get married, have babies and be subservient. It said that women had to tolerate emotional and physical abuse from their partners. It said that you were shameful if you ever got a divorce or had a child out of wedlock. It said that it was not only okay, but it was expected that women would earn less money than men for doing the same job.
Like a lumbering mountain that moves less than an inch a year, the status quo has evolved and changed its sweeping opinion over time. But still, I question its nobility. I question just how much good it does for a person when he submits to its power.
The pressure of the status quo currently states that whether it makes financial sense or not, a child should finish high school and embark immediately onto a $100K university or college education! And today, there is great pressure for teenagers to do so! Pressure in the high schools, the universities and most definitely within the family circle! Having worked in the financial services industry for a long time, I’m convinced that family members don’t really know why they do this to their children.
Unlike the olden days, having a university degree no longer guarantees you a hirer paying job in management like it did thirty years ago. In most cases now, a university degree is used more-so as a bare bones weeding tool in the work force, rather than regarded as a symbol of scholarly hard work and study. In my mind, it’s become one heck of an expensive piece of paper.
Parents know this today, but they don’t question it. They don’t ask why! The status quo says that a child must leave high school and immediately attend university or college.
Seldom do parents stand apart from the crowd and really analyze the expense of university versus the end benefit. Seldom do they evaluate the child’s readiness, his degree of certainty of a chosen career path or her overall maturity and the impact university will have on her mental welfare.
Seldom do parents take the road less travelled and look for other routes to help their children succeed in life. Seldom do they give their kids more time to figure things out, avoid a mountain of unnecessary school debt and find a career path that will truly serve the child.
What they do do though, is continue to force their kids into these no-win situations. Instead of granting the child an extra year or two after high school in which he might figure himself out, parents pressure their kids into university because the status quo says that they must.
This urgent pressure to choose a career path and invest a ridiculous amount of money “TODAY!!!” is what sets so many kids onto the road to personal and financial destruction! But the status quo says that it must be! It says that you are nothing without a degree behind your name. You may find yourself broke and buried in student debt, but none-the-less you have a university degree!
Will this very expensive and urgent investment pay off for your young adult who doesn’t even know who they are yet let alone what they want to do with the rest of their working life?
But it will guide them nicely right onto the next step dictated by the status quo. This next phase is when your unsuspecting young adult finds herself saddled with a boat load of useless school debt that will burden her for decades to come. She will then spend a rather large chunk of her adult life plodding along the path with the rest of the status quo as she works at minimum wage jobs, struggling to pay off the debt all the while regretting the fact that she ever went to school out of pressure instead waiting until she was focused and emotionally ready.
Why don’t parents see this? Why don’t parents see what they are doing to their kids?
Why? – Because they are blinded by the pressure of the status quo! It takes a lot of courage to take the road less travelled and make decisions on your own for no other reason other than they are the right decisions for you and those you love!
During a recent outbreak of Swine Flu in Canada, the government took it upon themselves to produce a crazed epidemic of fear. Canadian citizens became panic stricken in that they might fall victim to this very nasty flu and possibly die from it.
With the help of a barrage of non-stop media coverage, the status quo flocked by the thousands to temporary medical stations set up all over the country. A limited supply of flu vaccine became available, first to the elderly and infant children. This vaccine would supposedly stop you from getting sick and assure you that your young child or elderly parent wouldn’t die from Swine Flu.
I drove by a temporary medical station that was set up near my home. I pulled my car to the side of the road and sat there starring in absolutely disbelief. I watched as thousands of panic stricken Canadians stood in long lines extending across a massive parking lot, waiting anxiously for their turn to have this life saving concoction injected into their own bodies and the bodies of their young children!
Within weeks the government ran out of the life saving serum, so the scientists ran back to the lab and whipped up another batch of the stuff. Was it tested? Was it life saving? Was it necessary? I’m certainly no scientist, but I doubt it very much! The powers that be had created such an epidemic of fear in my neck of the woods, that there simply wasn’t time to research and test each new batch of “stuff” that was being plunged into the arms of fear engulfed Canadians. And fearful they were… because after all – the status quo said, if you didn’t get the injection and have the junk searching throughout your body then you would likely die. Canadians were terrified!
Family members put enormous pressure on me to have my children vaccinated from this potentially fatal, yet fashionable flu epidemic! Everyone was talking about it! Radio and television spoke of nothing but the swine flu epidemic in Canada. It was an outbreak of absolute craziness!
Most parents didn’t seem to question what they were hearing in the media. They didn’t seem to worry about what the serum would do to their children in the long run. They didn’t wonder about the history of this concoction or ask for research results. They didn’t question whether or not it would have potentially negative health implications on the people it was injected into.
It all happened so fast! And the status quo, once again without question bought right into it!
In the end, there were less than a handful of people who died from the swine flu in Canada during this pandemonium! But hundreds of thousands of Canadians willingly had this junk injected into their bloodstream WITHOUT EVEN A SINGLE QUESTION and many experienced some very nasty side effects.
But I refused, seeing no rationale in this bogus campaign of illness! I did my research on this craziness! And for the life of me, I just could not rationalize injecting this concoction of crap into the bodies of my extremely healthy three children.
But because of my decision to decline their kind offer of fear, I was labeled an abusive, negligent mother by both the community and family members! Yes, once again, like a salmon always swimming upstream, I stood very much alone on this issue. But quite frankly… I’m totally okay with that!
It’s just best that right now I don’t even get started on the Status Quo’s mentality of always being sick – Always focusing on some form of illness rather than on a mindset of perfect health! The Quo is always gabbing about either how to prevent it or how to heal from it – but none-the-less it’s always about illness!
Best I leave that topic for another day!
So I ask you….
Do you have the guts?
Do you ever question anyone or hold them accountable…
Or do you just buy right into what others say is so?
Step out of your comfort zone and challenge something today! Challenge it just because it seems wrong to you or you are sick of taking it without question!
Go for it! You’ll feel great!
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